In the pursuit of a more fulfilling relationship with my hubby I read that book "Women are From Venus Men are from Home Depot" or something like that. I did what the book recommended. I waited for the opportune time to talk. He was relaxed on the couch after a nice dinner. No sporting events were on the tv. I asked him "Honey, How are you feeling?" He looked over at me, decided it was not a trick question and replied "What do you mean?" I took a deep breath, "I mean Sweetheart, How are you feeling?" (I'm thinking that book is so stupid). So He answers "Well, I'm not hungry. I'm not tired. I'm feeling pretty good." OK, can I get my money back for that book now.
I'll let you in on a little secret of mine. I ended alot of frustration in my relationship with my hubby by using this one little trick (no deception intended) Don't worry. He doesn't read my blog. He just looks at the pictures every few weeks and tells me he thinks I'm doing a good job.
|My Sweetheart of 28 years|
We have been married for 28 years. 10 years the first time & going on 13 years this second (& final) time. That 5 year gap was a "growing" time for us. It's all good. Well God is good anyway. Ok back to my secret technique. Based on the theory Men are hunters and Women are gatherers - I have learned that if I give my hubby a mission he is more inclined to stay engaged while doing things with me such as walks on the beach, shopping, or anything revolving around helping my mother.
As long as he has something to hunt he's totally involved. For example when we take a romantic sunset walk on the beach together I am meandering over to the wreck line then over to the surf line looking for shells. I look up and he is 40 yards ahead of me. He can't understand why I am looking at shells and stuff. Aren't we walking for crying out loud? All the other beach walkers are beating us!
Based on men are hunters, what I started doing was asking him to help me find something, a certain type of shell for example. "Honey, I need this purple stripey shell for a project. Can you help me find some? I also bat my eyelashes for subtle effect. He usually asks if I got something in my eye. Anyhow, it works. It works at Target. It works at Books A Million. It almost worked at the Sarasota Shell Show but thats another story for another blog.
I found it works on the young male children of my girlfriends. As we were on the beach yesterday, I harnessed all that young male energy by asking them to help me find shell whorls for my friend Shellbelle who needs them for a shell craft. The hunt was on. Spears raised in the air or maybe it was their shell shovels. They were on it. Three 10 yo boys inundated me with shell whorls. I came home with a whole bucket full.
|Shell whorls for Shellbelle|
|To make these beauties|